An Open Letter to Friends I Don’t See Anymore

dsc_6651Hey. It’s been awhile since I’ve seen or heard from you, but from what I see on Instagram it looks like you’re having a good time. I wonder about the people you hang out with now. Are they funny? Sweet? Loyal? Genuine? Well no matter why you chose them, I hope they make you happy.

I don’t really know why we stopped hanging out. Maybe it was going to college, or distraction from all the classwork, parties, etc. Maybe we just both found people who click with us better. No matter the reason, I’m glad that we’re both doing good. Not everyone is meant to stay in your life forever, and that’s okay.

We used to have a great time together. I know it’s not the same as friendships now. It’s a lot easier to get to know people when you live in dorms two minutes away from each other. It was still a good friendship though. Playing nerdy board games at our New Year’s Eve parties when everyone else was out getting drunk. Getting tipsy off of sharing one bottle of wine on our birthdays and confessing our secret fears and dreams.

I know it wasn’t always great. There were fights about boys, and we didn’t always treat each other with the most kindness and respect. But at the end of the day I can’t think back on my time with you and be anything except grateful.

So thank you. Thank you for teaching me that it is not the end of the world when your friends hang out without you. Thank you for showing me that leaning on people is necessary, but being completely dependent on one person isn’t healthy. Thank you for gossiping about boys, crying together, laughing together, and sharing every emotion I felt throughout my adolescence.

Because without you, I wouldn’t be who I am today. So thank you, and I hope that you’re doing well.


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